Who Will Weep?

Our labor is sacred, emotionally charged, and close to the heart of God. It is not the kind of work that can be done without engaging the emotions. It’s a sad fact that not every pregnancy options consultation turns into a choice for life. So, what can we do with our feelings of disappointment, grief, and anguish after learning about the death decision a client has made?

I stood by Victoria’s* side several years ago during her ultrasound. She squeezed my hand when she saw her 12-week-old baby in her womb. “My baby! My baby!!” She chose life. I then scheduled her for our Bridges Program the following week. But Victoria never came.

Months later I learned she had aborted that child. I literally had my face on the floor, crying out to God asking the proverbial “Why?” Intellectually, I understood this was her decision, not mine. I can’t “save” anyone’s baby. Still, I was grief-stricken at her choice. I thought she had taken hold of hope. Instead, fear had its way and her baby lost its life.

Those of us in pro-life ministry recognize that we may be the only ones grieving the little ones lost to abortion. Their parents may be in denial. Their extended families most likely don’t know of their existence. So, who will weep for them? We will. We are first-hand witnesses to this baby's life, even if only for a short time. A human life created—however briefly lived—is of unique and immeasurable worth to God.

At one of our staff retreats, we took time to honor the lives of those babies lost. In taking time to grieve, we honor both God and the preborn people we are working so hard to rescue.

Several years later, Victoria came back to Crossroads—pregnant again. She expressed how much her past abortion hurt her. But this time, praise God, she did choose life for her baby. And she knew that Crossroads was here for her. You are here for her, too, because together, we can change the world one person at a time. Thank you for uniting with us!

*Names changed for client confidentiality