Pregnancy Loss
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” Psalm 34:18
As anyone who’s experienced pregnancy loss knows, the pain is real, deep, and often difficult to navigate. It’s a different kind of grief than losing someone you had a chance to get to know. It’s the loss of dreams and what might have been. It’s the grief of not being able to get to know that daughter or son by seeing, hearing, and holding her or him.
As Christians who believe in God’s creative power and great compassion, we have all the permission we need to grieve preborn children we have lost—as well as to mourn and honor babies we know of who have been lost to abortion. We understand that pregnancy loss results in deep sorrow, no matter how it comes about. We also understand that women who have experienced the particular guilt and grief associated with abortion especially need mercy and healing.
I was recently handed this beautiful poem by someone who experienced a stillborn delivery. They wish to remain anonymous.
I built a tiny garden in the corner of my mind
that I keep for only the divine.
There is where I will visit you,
the remainder of my time.
We can remember you and only that you’re gone or
We can cherish your memory and let it live on.
It’s a fearful thing to love what death can touch.
We may have only held you in our arms for a moment
but we have come to love you much.
You were born silent and beautiful.
Still loved. Still missed. Still remembered.
Stillborn. Still born.
Jesus, we wanted to sit her on our laps
and tell her about you.
Since we can’t do that now,
will you sit her on your knee and tell her about us?
Pregnancy centers stand at the ready, helping women gain the hope they need to carry their children to term, comforting them if they lose a child by miscarriage or stillbirth, and offering healing from past abortions.
If you would like to talk to us, please contact us. We are here for you in confidentiality and without judgment, no matter how your pregnancy loss happened.
You can text us at (814) 408-5272, call us or drop in at any of our four locations, or contact us through our website: cpcforlife.org/contact.